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Published on Obsessee’s instagram page — January 26, 2017 | Written by Kristie Dash

Girls on film. Think about them and name a pair of fictional female friends who aren’t actually secret frenemies. Even though they’re some of my all-time favorite characters to watch, I kind of hate how common depictions of negative relationships are. Lili Reinhart and Camila Mendes, stars of Riverdale (a new series that premieres tonight at 9/8c on The CW), agree.

“Healthy female friendships are underrepresented on television,” Lili told me. “Like every friendship, you’re going to have problems, but at the end of the day, there’s nothing stronger than a girl’s relationship with her best friend.” Lucky for those of us who care about connecting this gap between the media and real life, their roles in the show explore this concept in a way that *doesn’t* make you choose sides. “Our characters are better when they’re together, because they complement each other. When you see qualities that someone else possesses that you don’t have yourself, it’s better to learn and grow from those—not be threatened by them,” Camila said.

Keeping with the ? theme, I asked the actresses about the meaningful relationships in their lives—and why it’s okay to not even try to seem TV-perfect.

Lili Reinhart: I was a really socially anxious kid, so I’ve always had the same small group of five or six friends. My best friend in the world, who I still have today, I met in sixth grade. At times, I didn’t feel great—like I wasn’t as popular—but now that I’m 20 and working, I realize how valuable it is to just have a small number of really close, strong friendships. That, to me, is a lot more valuable than a bunch of friends who only kind of know you.”

Camila Mendes: I agree. I’ve had the same core group of friends since I was in eighth grade. It’s valuable to have people in your life who have known you since day one. That being said, I had really random friends in college who quickly disappeared. There are a lot of people from freshman year I don’t talk to anymore. Actually, I kind of despise some of them, but I think that’s part of the growing-up process. You start to realize what friendships are more negative than positive.

People are growing up in an interesting time right now where social media dictates our image of perfection. We have all of these social media–famous people now who have set this bar, and it’s a very unrealistic bar. I start following models on Instagram and I get in this spiral where I follow one and then follow the next, and I’m like, why do I follow them? Every day, you look at that when you’re scrolling through your feed, and you start to feel like it’s normal. Everyone is different.

Camila Mendes: We’re in the generation where we feel like we need to be doing something at all times. We’re obsessed with productivity, and it makes everyone incredibly anxious. I always feel like I’m not doing enough and I’m always hard on myself. Yesterday, I was in the car with Cole Sprouse, and I was saying how I get home and I don’t do anything. I just go to sleep and I feel so useless, and he was like, ‘You’re the lead in a TV show, you’re working 15-hour days, your show is about to air, you need to chill. You’re 22 years old, you just got out of college, you’re right where you need to be.’ Because of the way we grow up so fast now, we start to think we should be at a higher place. We don’t appreciate where we are in our process, and we always feel we need to be on the next level. We can’t just take a second. In doing this show, I’m starting to learn how to just let myself go home and go to sleep—and that’s okay. We can only appreciate where we are in our lives by taking it day by day. Stressing about feeling like you’re not trying hard enough doesn’t help; it only makes you less productive and less inclined to push forward.